By: Molley Obbu
I can’t say I have seen it all but I can very
confidently say I have seen enough to qualify me to speak on this topic. I have
seen relationships come and go, have been in love, crashed out of it and
sometimes even thrown out of it. For most of the times as is the case with us
women folks; “the men are to blame” well, yes. Forgive my use of the popular
phrase: “Men are Dogs” but permit me to also add here that “Wives are Logs” and
have been for ages. It just so happens that the victims who happen to be the
men in this case are not ones to cry out for help.
Like I always say, there is an exception to
every rule, so I won’t fail to chip in here that not every broken relationship
or marriage is as a result of “a log of a wife” or “a Dog of a husband” but in
the middle are a lot many relationships that have hit the rocks, are heading
for it, or are destined to hit it soon if wives don’t wake up and smell the
coffee.
Change as we all know is a constant and over the
years there is hardly anything or aspects of our lives that have not either
changed or evolved, name it; fashion has evolved, communication methods have
evolved, means of transportation has evolved, construction technology have not been
left out, even love has evolved; no one loves for the sake of love anymore
neither do people marry just for good ole love and companionship sakes, it has evolved to become a means for
achieving one selfish gain or the other. Has courting evolved too? Oh yes,of
course! Women now do the courting and in fact do the “marrying” cos a larger
part of our men have missed it. The list goes on but that is talk for another
day.
Still on The Mata!, Question; why the hell then
do Wives still think that the way they give and receive Sex hasn’t or shouldn’t
evolve? ..Well news flash! It has evolved and the earlier we wake up to this
realization the earlier we can begin to accept the fact that:
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- Sex has evolved and our
husbands desire to be part of the evolution whether we like it or not
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Majority of us are too
much of a prude to match this change hence we are left behind and the Husbands
are screaming out for help.
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The younger females out
there have caught the trend and are living it large.
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Our husbands will go where
they can find it…. And you know where.
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These young females don’t
care about the size of the ring on your hubby’s finger- if your Hubby wants it
and they’ve got it, they will give it. Too bad if it breaks your home or heart.
So wake up!
Now, let’s go back a little to the “Good ole sex as we
knew it”; when the hubby wanted sex, he had to wait until he got home to Wifey,
not only that, he also had to wait until it was
night, when you were both in bed after the day’s work and oh yes! After
lights out.
Sometimes he even has to pray for you to be in
the mood and often times would have to wait for days for an answer to that
prayer.
Well, too bad Ladies!, this is no longer the
case, the evolution age has brought with it many brands of Sex; “Phone sex”,
“Sext”, “Video Sex”, “Odd Sex”, “Kinky Sex”, “Oral Sex”, “twosome”,
“Threesome”, name it. Need I add that the sex positions were the first to
evolve? And trust me your hubby knows it and wants it, am quite sure some of
you wives have gotten the hints at one time or the other from hubby but have either
ignored it or quarried it. Recall those times when your Hubby tried to
make out with you in the car at some quiet parking, the other time when he
tried doing it with you in one strange position you thought was outrageously
crazy and impossible and your response was; “you think I am those cheap girls
out there?”, the other day when he tried
to make you give him a “B.J”?
How about that one time he wanted it when you
were all sweaty in the kitchen? Or while he was away on a trip and was
insistent on talking dirty to you on the phone and you resisted it? Well, Sweetheart,
sorry to break it to you but if this is you at one time or the other, and then take it from me; you are a “Log of a Wife” at the
very verge of losing out. Your hubby has seen the light and if he is still
looking to have it shine from you, then count yourself lucky Girl, get some
extra batteries and shine that light like a Diamond!
While researching on this topic, I was amazed at
stories by men who have at one time or the other been victims of “a Log of a
Wife”. Catch these stories for instance: A loving hubby sensing that the fire
in his love life and marriage had gone deem and was at the verge of extinguishing
decided to take Wifey on a weekend getaway to attempts to get the fire
rekindled, well, guess what? It turned out to be the very straw that broke the
Carmel’s back cos right there on that trip he had to give in to looking for the
“Light” from the many young females who were blazing fire cos even on this
romantic weekend getaway Wifey insisted she would not have sex with her husband
on a hotel bed…………..Hello!
Another says he spent a whole week trying to
restore peace in his home just because he attempted to give his wife “Head”.
She turned it on him insisting that he obviously
had some other girl he had been doing it and Serious “Gbege” broke out…
There is this other hubby whose wife reported him
to their pastor for counseling and deliverance cos he wanted them to watch a
sex video together to help her get her groove back…. Imagine what drove him to
seek help for wifey in the first place.
What about the wife who has never and would
never kiss her hubby on the mouth even after he had made it known over and over
that kissing is what gets him going? We can go on and on with the bad experiences
of Hubbies who are dying in silence some of whom I am sorry to say have given
up on their wives and sought solace elsewhere …. You and I know what that means.
Wives as hard as this truth may sound, there is
urgent need for an upgrade of our sex lives; come to think of it, when our computer
software is outdated, we upgrade. We buy the latest phone handsets to keep up
with trends; we are quick to catch up on the latest fashion statements and trends.
What then is stopping you from upgrading your Sex lives and habits or attitude
to sex?. Come on! Forget what you knew or were told growing up, stop hiding
behind religion or spirituality, if you do not know what and how, get books, its
simple. Just the way you would buy a cook book to make a new recipe. Learn!
Learn! and Learn!, keep up with your hubby. I understand that that as women our
Libido can let us down sometimes so discover your aphrodisiac and let your hubby
know it so he can help you get it to set you in the mood. Take Hormonal
supplements as prescribed by your gynecologist. Stop making excuses like; “am
too busy”, “After Three kids?”, “abeg, let him experiment on those girls, after
all am the wife”, “he will come back to me after his escapades” …. News flash
my dear! Less and less Hubbies are coming back these days.
If you are reading this article and by now you
still haven’t caught on who this “Log of a wife” is, then hear this; a “Log of
a wife” defines a wife who has chosen to remain stuck in the old ways and attitude
towards sex so much so that it is beginning to affect her marriage, she is that
wife who has refused to “Upgrade” her “sexuality” even when her Hubby has and
is willing to help her catch on.
A “Log of a wife” won’t experiment with her
hubby: won’t have Oral sex, she won’t kiss on the mouth, she will not try out
new positions, and she will not talk sexy to turn on her Hubby even when he
asks for it. She won’t wear sexy Lingerie even when her Hubby buys it, she
won’t have sex anywhere else but on their bed, in their bedroom at night in the
dark… boring!. She won’t initiate sex and hardly responds when her hubby does.
She cannot show emotions or romance when the kids are present, she is COLD
during sex; no sounds, no moves, no response just waiting for him to finish….na
wa oh!…phew! it makes you wonder how
much a hubby can actually take.
Ironically, over 90% of wives fall in this
category. Well, Like I would always
conclude, this may not be the only problem with your marriage as am sure you
are thinking by now but wouldn’t it be great if “this one” on which majority of
marital problems are rooted is taken care of?
As is the general phrase over the years; “Men are Dogs” but what are Wives doing about
it? shouldn’t you rather be his “Bitch” and keep him stringing and drooling
over you for as long as you are together rather than have him bring home left
overs cos you are the Wife?
Come to think of it, “Dogs” and “Logs” may rhyme
they don’t row together. So WIFEYS. Start downloading your upgrade Now!
